“Us and Them” is an essay written by David Sedaris, an American humorist and author. It is included in his collection of autobiographical essays called “Dress Your Family in Corduroy and Denim.” The essay explores themes of human nature, societal divisions, and the notion of “us” versus “them.”

In the essay, Sedaris reflects on his childhood experiences during the annual neighborhood tradition of “War.” During this event, the children in his neighborhood would divide into two groups, “us” and “them,” and engage in a mock battle using pebbles and dirt clods.

Sedaris recounts how his family, particularly his mother, was always keen on distancing themselves from “them” – the Tomkeys, a lower-income family from the neighborhood. His family was more affluent and had a greater emphasis on manners and appearance. Sedaris observes the contrasting lifestyles and behaviors of the two families and the social barriers that separated them.

The essay delves into Sedaris’ curiosity about the Tomkeys and his mother’s judgmental attitudes towards them. He reflects on the ways in which people create divisions and perceive differences in society, often leading to stereotypes and judgments based on limited information or appearances.

As the essay progresses, Sedaris explores his own experiences of feeling like an outsider when his family moves to a different neighborhood. He realizes that he becomes the new “them” in the eyes of his new neighbors, and he grapples with the feeling of being judged and excluded.

Throughout the essay, Sedaris examines the human tendency to create distinctions between “us” and “them” and the consequences of these divisions. He questions the validity of such categorizations and the potential for greater understanding and empathy if people were to bridge the gaps between different groups.

“Us and Them” offers a thought-provoking exploration of social dynamics, belonging, and the ways in which our perceptions of others can shape our interactions and relationships. Sedaris blends humor and introspection to shed light on the complexities of human nature and the importance of empathy in a world often divided by arbitrary distinctions.